Will the Real Friends Please Stand Up?
I remember watching this show when I was young (I stayed home from school sick a lot and watched a LOT of game shows). I think it was called "To Tell the Truth". The basic premise was that 3 people were pretending to be someone with an interesting story. There was a panel of judges asking these people questions about their story trying to decide who was telling the truth. At the end they would say - "Will the REAL Amie Carlson please stand up?" And you would find out who was telling the truth. Often times you would be shocked at who would actually be the person with the interesting story because some of the other ones would be much more convincing.
I feel like I am playing in that game show.
I feel like moving away really shows you who is willing to stand up and say they are truly your friends and care about you.
I have had the most interesting reactions to finding out I am moving. I have had people mad at me for "choosing to leave them". I have had people burst into tears because they will miss me. I have had people ignore the news completely. I have had people who comment on how strange it will be when I am not there when they want to see me. I have had many people who want to know how I am doing - really doing...and take the time to really listen.
And then I have had just a few (3 actually to be precise) who are carrying me through. They are stepping up and calling me, listening to me, asking me great questions, hugging me and really wanting to know how they can help me walk through it. They are planning trips to see me and choosing to dive deeper in the friendship even though they KNOW I am leaving. These are the true friends rising to the surface. The ones who aren't in it just for themselves and what they get out of our friendship. They want the junk. The messiness that doesn't make a lot of sense. They want the anger and bitterness that I am living in now and aren't scared off by it. They are waiting around for sadness to hit...and promise to walk through it with me. Because I know it is coming...I feel it boiling around down there waiting to erupt.
I was surprised at who these friends were. I guess I wouldn't have thought it would be them. But I am SO grateful for them and thank God for them daily. To tell the truth- I don't know where I would be without them.
I feel like I am playing in that game show.
I feel like moving away really shows you who is willing to stand up and say they are truly your friends and care about you.
I have had the most interesting reactions to finding out I am moving. I have had people mad at me for "choosing to leave them". I have had people burst into tears because they will miss me. I have had people ignore the news completely. I have had people who comment on how strange it will be when I am not there when they want to see me. I have had many people who want to know how I am doing - really doing...and take the time to really listen.
And then I have had just a few (3 actually to be precise) who are carrying me through. They are stepping up and calling me, listening to me, asking me great questions, hugging me and really wanting to know how they can help me walk through it. They are planning trips to see me and choosing to dive deeper in the friendship even though they KNOW I am leaving. These are the true friends rising to the surface. The ones who aren't in it just for themselves and what they get out of our friendship. They want the junk. The messiness that doesn't make a lot of sense. They want the anger and bitterness that I am living in now and aren't scared off by it. They are waiting around for sadness to hit...and promise to walk through it with me. Because I know it is coming...I feel it boiling around down there waiting to erupt.
I was surprised at who these friends were. I guess I wouldn't have thought it would be them. But I am SO grateful for them and thank God for them daily. To tell the truth- I don't know where I would be without them.
posted by Amie at 6:27 PM
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